Toasts and Tributes
Friday, 29 November 2013
Preamble
During the past few years we have gathered some of the photographic history of my parents, Enid and John O'Rourke, and their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. We all have copies of As I Recall, reminiscences written by Dad of his childhood and young adult life. It occurred to me that there are other stories that are part of the oral history of the family. Some of these are toasts and tributes at significant occasions in my parents' lives. I will endeavour to track down some of these and record them. They may provide further insights into their lives, seen from the perspectives of friends and relatives.
Thursday, 20 December 2012
Eulogy for Enid
Eulogy by Monica
I am honoured, on behalf of my
brothers and sisters, to pay tribute today to my mother Enid Therese O’Rourke.
We are all grateful to see so many family and friends gathered to say farewell
to a woman, who in her 91 years of life, touched so many. She was strong of
spirit and gentle in nature. She had great expectations of all of us but
without pressure. But her pride in our accomplishments was enough to motivate
us to persist and succeed.
I am honoured, on behalf of my
brothers and sisters, to pay tribute today to my mother Enid Therese O’Rourke.
We are all grateful to see so many family and friends gathered to say farewell
to a woman, who in her 91 years of life, touched so many. She was strong of
spirit and gentle in nature. She had great expectations of all of us but
without pressure. But her pride in our accomplishments was enough to motivate
us to persist and succeed.
Some
of you know that for much of this year I have been on an extended driving
holiday in the southern states. In that time I occasionally saw a wonderful
phenomenon that was unfamiliar to me – the sunrise! When I heard that Mum had
had a stroke, I was in Adelaide and drove home over the next four days. Not only
did I see the sunrise on those days but I was conscious of the long shadows
cast by the early morning and late afternoon sun as I drove home. Reflecting on
these shadows, I thought of how many lives had been touched by the shadow of my
mother.
Mum
was born Enid Therese Hardy in Mackay in 1920. In those days her morning shadow
fell forward on her parents Annie Roderick and James Hardy and her four sisters
and two brothers, all of whom have passed on except Aunty Claire who would have
loved to be here today. Enid spent all her growing-up years in Mackay and
worked there as a young adult.
It
was there at a dance at the Catholic Club that she met John Toomey O’Rourke.
They had a two year engagement because her father refused to let her marry an
unemployed farmer at the end of the depression. She was asked to wait till she
was 21 – and in those days kids were more likely to do as their parents asked! They
made a handsome couple and I cherish a photo of them both in swimsuits from
neck, not quite to knee but certainly with a short leg – yes Dad too! Apart
from dancing, Mum played a bit of sport – vigoro at school and later tennis.
They
started a family which eventually consisted of 13 children, all of whom are
here today – including Margaret who has just staggered off a 36 hour trip from
Canada. In the early years of their marriage Dad was in the armed forces and
away for long periods of time, some of which she spent at Traveston with Dad’s
family and I know Granny and Grandfather were very fond of her and Mum of them.
As
the family grew, she moved to Nambour, Caboolture for nearly ten years and then
to Scarborough. Dad always said that they got married, had thirteen kids and
Mum never worked again. Amazingly enough, she did find time for years to play
social tennis and was in the Gerard Majella Mother’s group. It was not unusual
for a young mother in the parish to arrive at home, overwhelmed by the demands
of a new baby or a difficult child. After drawing on Mum’s considerable experience,
the new Mum would wipe away her tears and know that she could cope, knowing
also that the advice Mum gave was tried and true.
I
guess the way we all turned out as adults was due in part to her attitude to
life, her child raising philosophies - and her good strong tennis arm. Although
we always said she couldn’t hit the side of a barn, her aim was good enough to
fell Rod one day. He was obviously in strife and raced away down the back steps
to escape Mum. She just happened to have an empty jam tin in her hand. One good
lob and he was down! She then had the embarrassment of taking him to the doctor
for stitches in his head. If that happened now, she would have ended up in jail
for child abuse. Or maybe not, because then someone would have had to look
after her energetic brood. Would you wish that on someone?
Someone
once referred to her as a feisty little thing. There was certainly not much
that she couldn’t turn her hand to. I remember her climbing up on to the roof
to rescue me. I had decided to get up on the high tank stand – because the boys
used to! I climbed up the wall below, shimmied up between the tanks onto the
roof – and there I stayed, too frightened to come down. Mum got a ladder and
followed me up. She managed to talk me back to the tank stand but I wouldn’t
come any further, and there I sat for two hours till Dad came home. Meanwhile
Mum calmly went back to the kitchen to prepare tea. We learned to be
self-reliant - though we might not have been very bright.
That
stage of her life was probably the noon or midday of her life. Her shadow was
focused on family. In fact, I am not sure she even had time to cast a shadow in
those days. Or else she moved so fast and so constantly that the shadow didn’t
have time to fall. She was always busy. She made most of our clothes, cooked
and cleaned and, in the evening, for entertainment, she folded the washing. We
used to say the rosary every night, and on wash days before we started the
rosary, we each had to take one end of a sheet and fold it. We left all the
little bits for her – dozens of undies and hundreds of socks to sort and fold.
And you know she actually folded socks. I can show you how if anyone wants to
do it. Myself, I just roll them into roughly matching pairs.
Every
morning we scurried off to school after breakfast and arrived back at 12.30 for
lunch. It was easier for her to set the table at home and have us back for
lunch than to cut seven or eight or more lunches. Dad had a cut lunch, wrapped
in a white linen serviette, every day of his working life. I am sure that
whichever of my siblings was allocated the serviettes when Mum gave things away
still starches and irons them for everyday use. I know it wasn’t me. I very
generously allowed someone else to have them.
Meals
were an important part of the day. There was always a tablecloth for every meal
and cutlery set properly and we were reminded of our manners. As the crowd
around the table grew, we also learned to sit and eat with our elbows close to
our bodies, not stuck out to the side because there was always another small
body close on each side. That was despite the specially made, extra long, red
laminex table that always seemed able to squeeze in one more person.
Without
ever having it spelled out exactly how to do it, we knew that we had to have a
good education. If we had a question of any sort about education or a career we
were referred to Uncle Ted. Between him and Mum and Dad, we were set on the
right track. But as they say, you can be on the right track but if you don’t
move you’ll get run over. We all settled into our careers with the requisite
initial qualifications. The inspiration of our parents was most obvious in our
continuing education. Almost all of us went on to get added qualifications
usually with night study and distance education either specific to our work or
to allow us to move forward. Tony estimates an additional fifteen degrees,
diplomas, grad dips and masters qualifications as well as ongoing certification
within certain careers. That was on top of the best education my parents could
afford to give us, at considerable personal sacrifice.
Yet
none of this ever seemed to be a problem. I rarely saw Mum hot under the
collar. She was incredibly calm in most situations. I think most of our
neighbours must have wondered how she remained sane and I’m sure some of them
were surprised she didn’t want to murder us all at times. She insisted she
never felt that way. (I really think she had a fairly flexible memory for some
things!) I do know she was able to make the most of what we’d now refer to as
‘Me Time’. She always had an afternoon rest and was able to lose herself in a
book or a crossword or a jigsaw puzzle.
As
well as our own tribe, there were constant visits from aunts and uncles and
cousins. Aunts Pat, Rena and Moya are here today and a lot of cousins who were
our partners in crime. Mum always had a cuppa on for the adults while we kids ran
wild together – playing hidey in the linen cupboard and under beds and telling
ghost stories in the dark. We did things when our cousins were there that we
would never have done at any other time. Mum took it well – she probably
realised that the cousins just let us astray! Yes her shadow fell on the wider
family or maybe they moved closer into her shadow.
As
we slowly but inevitably left home, Mum and Dad became even closer. Unless one
of them was in hospital or something equally unusual they didn’t spend a day
apart in 67 years until Dad had to go into a nursing home. We saw their love
played out there on a daily basis as Mum spent most of the morning and all
afternoon with Dad for nearly two years.
When
he died in 2007, I think something died in Mum too. Her daily routine was shattered
and, although the wider family continued to grow, the man at the core of her
heart had moved on. From them she gradually faded away. She spent most of those
four years without him in care, here at St Joseph’s and then at Penola. The
care she received in her twilight years was wonderful and it is lovely to see
the Sisters and Penola staff accompanying Mum today on her last journey. Her
journey into the darkness of the night was made with the certainty of a new day
dawning with her beloved John.
Friends
and family here today and the many who have sent messages of condolence are all
part of the history of Enid Therese Hardy O’Rourke. As a family we are very
grateful to you all for being here today but most especially for being part of
the life of our mother. You will remain in our hearts as I hope Mum remains in
yours.
Her
evening shadow had lengthened over the years to encompass her 13 children, 31
grandchildren and 30 great-grandchildren – and those in the future who won’t
know her in person but will be influenced by the family values which she has
passed on to three generations. Her shadow is the shadow of love and we continue
to live in its shade as she rests now in peace.
Monday, 17 December 2012
Goodbye Dad - Monica
Like
Denis, I am honoured to speak on behalf of my mother and my brothers and
sisters. I think that is appropriate for us to talk today as family members. If
any word were to characterise Dad, it would be the word family. Everything he has done during the 67 years he
and Mum have been married has been for the family.
All
through my school days, Dad worked for what is now the Dept of Primary
Industries. With a constantly growing family, a single salary was never enough.
(And of course Dad always said that Mum just had 13 children and never worked!)
So to supplement that, he usually had a patch of bananas or pineapples where he
worked after work and on weekends. Talk about knocking off work to carry coal!
Mum slaved just as hard and most of the family did what they could. Even Trish
remembers working all day picking beans – when she was 2 years old. With my
instinct for self-preservation, I generally volunteered to look after the
little ones and not dirty my delicate hands.
In
those days, workers had only two weeks holiday and Dad made sure that we got
away whenever he could afford it. We spent a lot of holidays at Tewantin and
Noosa (before it was fashionable). What I remember clearly is the emphasis Mum
and Dad placed on their relationship. Usually we had a week all together at the
beach and then Aunty Mag came and looked after us while they had a few days
away together. Dad and the boys spent a lot of time fishing and I have very
clear memories of the odour of sea and salt and smelly bait. My brothers can
tell you stories of lessons they learnt from Dad about boating and fishing.
Some
of his fishing stories have no doubt been embellished by time. However he was a
great storyteller. (And on that note, I have recently had Dad’s reminiscences
reprinted and there are books at the back for any of our relatives who would
like one). Most people who have read his
As I Recall say that whether or not they shared the same experiences,
the stories sent them off on similar journeys of memory. Dad had a keen eye for
the incongruous and his sense of humour is one of the memories I will carry
with me. Right to the end, he had a quick wit and I often heard him chiacking
the staff at the nursing home. Last year I was talking about trying to learn
Italian. When I said my accent was terrible and I had trouble rolling my ‘r’ s,
immediately his mouth twitched into a grin. I had to add, when I pronounce words,
not when I walk down the street.
We
have been incredibly blessed to have had Dad in our lives for so long. His
children have appreciated him in their adult lives, his grandchildren are all
old enough to remember him and some of the great-grandchildren will have
memories to treasure. But it is not only his immediate family who benefited but
the wider family as well. As Dad’s brothers and sisters passed on, he tried not
to lose touch with his many nieces and nephews. Even those he didn’t see often were
important and he liked to keep up with what they were doing. His door was
always open and unexpected visitors were a treat for him and Mum. I’m sure he
will always be remembered as a devoted family man and, in every sense of the
word, a gentle man.
Monica
Memories of Dad -Denis
Good
morning and welcome to this mass in celebration of the life of John
O’Rourke. I am Denis O’Rourke, the
oldest of the large family of John and Enid.
John
Toomey O’Rourke was born at Gympie in 1916.
The Toomey name was his mother’s maiden name. He grew up very happily on his parents’ dairy
farm at Traveston 15 miles south of Gympie along with five brothers and three
sisters. He completed his secondary
schooling at Nudgee College in 1931 with a Junior Certificate just as the Great
Depression wrought havoc on the country.
Jobs
were virtually non-existent and Dad always said he endured six years, on or
near the bread line, with only sporadic work.
He met Mum in Mackay in 1938 and they married in October 1941 while he
was in the Armed Services. So began a
wonderful relationship which lasted 66 years.
Dad
joined the Queensland Department of Agriculture and Stock as an Advisor in
Horticulture in Nambour in 1947 but moved to the Caboolture office the next
year. He originally focused on banana
production and later on pineapples and small crops. I know he was very comfortable in this job
mixing easily with the farming community and he remained a country boy at
heart.
Dad
was always a hard worker and on weekends he farmed in succession two blocks of
bananas at Cobble Creek and Narangba and later a block of pineapples at Elimbah
over a ten year period. This quickly
paid off the family home as Dad had a strong aversion to owing anyone
money. It also supplemented the budget
as his family grew. Dad never considered
Bankcard a sensible option!
After
living in Caboolture for some 12 years, Mum and Dad built a home at Turner
Street Scarborough in 1960 so the family could be closer to secondary
schooling. Here they lived happily for
over 40 years and in retirement enjoyed caravanning, the gem fields and a quite
a number of holiday trips. At one stage you never knew where they were! In 2003 they moved to the BallyCara
Retirement Village also at Scarborough.
I
have a wealth of happy memories of family life at Scarborough. The home was centred on a large kitchen
always warm and welcoming with a large combustion stove and a red laminex
topped kitchen table. The table seated
eight in comfort but many more with a little effort. Here family members and
visiting relatives enjoyed Mum and Dad’s company and the famous J T cups of tea
– hot and strong and suitably sweet.
Everyone was welcome, everyone was equal and everyone was encouraged to
have an opinion. I think Dad was ever
mindful of how tough life had been in his youth and he was very sensitive and
non-judgemental to the problems encountered by his children. You knew you would get help and support but
especially, quiet, sensible advice.
He
loved the company of his many grandchildren [and great grandchildren] and he
would never hear a cross word against any of them. Dad enjoyed their company and always wanted
to know what they were up to and delighted in following their growth to
adulthood.
Now
Dad had a great sense of humour and loved a good yarn and he had an enormous
collection of stories a few of which he set down in his book appropriately
named “As I Recall” which he wrote in 1990. I will share one of my favourites.
After
effectively hitching a ride with Queensland Rail for some 700 miles from
Traveston to Cunnamulla with all of 5/- to his name, Dad got a job with a
rabbit-fencing contractor 120 miles west of Cunnamulla. The job came with some perks – accommodation,
rations and hot and cold running water.
Now
the free accommodation was a camp tent – freezing in Winter boiling in Summer.
The
free rations were all the mutton you could eat but you did have to catch and
slaughter your own beast.
For
hot running water you walked up the artesian bore drain----for cooler water you
walked down the bore drain! It was muddy, untreated, very mineralised and
shared with numerous sheep, kangaroos and other assorted animal and birdlife.
I
will leave you with three observations-
- The O’Rourke family never went camping
- The O’Rourke family never, but never, had
mutton on the menu
And
Dad’s comment on the current topic of recycled water would probably be:
“Get over it, it probably won’t kill you.”
Thank
you.
John's 90th Birthday
HAPPY
90TH BIRTHDAY, JOHN O’ROURKE (by Monica)
In
a family of talkers, it seems odd that the quietest, shyest one should get to
talk at the most important functions. I fought hard for the honour. And this is
an important weekend, as Dad celebrates his 90th birthday. I know that Dad is delighted to see so many
of his family and friends gathered around.
I
was fortunate to grow up in a family where family was always the focus and
always talked about. I have clear
recollections of Dad talking about his parents and grandparents and his life as
he grew up. The stories he told about My Grandfather (his father)
related to community life. It tickled my fancy when I was a kid to hear about
grandfather being asked for a quote to move postholes, when he had the only
truck in the district. His answer was: so much a dozen and you load them. No
wonder we are all appreciate quick wittedness. He talked about Granny
(his mother) and her kindness and generosity. I certainly remember how open
hearted she was to her grandkids - and how we repaid that when we visited. How
many of you here were guilty of hoeing into the bread so that she’d have to make
fried scones instead?
As
I look around here today, I see family members of almost all his brothers and
sisters. When he talked about Norah, Dad always said how unjust it was
for her to have to leave school early and help look after the house. He was always
determined that none of his girls would miss out on the opportunity to have a
good job or career. Norah must have been very like her mother in temperament
and Dad has talked about her looking after an orphaned koala.
When
I think about Flo, I don’t think just of the successful chemist but the
young fellow who was called Aunty Flo at Nudgee, when schools were the breeding
grounds for nicknames. Dad, when he followed along, became Little Aunty.
Dad
always had a soft spot for Maurie and believed the weeks he spent with
Granny leading up to her death, gave a peace of mind, which balanced out his
years of restlessness. I can’t say I really knew Maurie well but he returned to
Traveston from time to time so Rod and Cherie knew him much better.
We
had a lot to do with Ted and his family as we grew up but my favourite
memory is one of Dad’s stories. The family were gathered with visitors one day
when the young Ted rushed into the house yelling, I’ve swallowed an
elephant. I’ve swallowed an elephant. They should never have put such small toys
into Easter eggs!
My
memory of Len is totally my own. I don’t know why we were at the farm at
the same time as Len but I do remember when he gave me a small red chilli from
a shrub in the house yard. I also remember how angry Dad was with him for that.
I also know why my favourite flavour is, no not chilli, it’s ‘bland’.
Although
I was relatively young when Frank died, I think of him as the young
postman riding a bike uphill and down through Gympie after he left school. He
had always been encouraged to do as much as he could despite the heart problems
which he endured for his entire life.
Bet was also a favourite of Dad.
Although she was much younger, she seemed to follow him around when he was a
young adult. When he came home from work she would sometime stand behind him
while he was sitting reading the paper and would brush or comb his hair. Once
she spent ages, doing his hair and chatting. When he went out to dinner, he
discovered that she had arranged his hair in rows of kiss curls. I do know that
he would have had endless patience with her, as he always does with children.
Anyone
who has read his reminiscences will know his story about Pat getting
lost at Mrs Griffin’s. For me, stopping off at the Powells in Cooroy on the way
to Traveston was always an important part of a trip, for quick a cuppa and a
chat. This cuppa and chat took ages because I know Dad can talk and got the
impression early that Pat was quite a talker too. Nothing I’ve seen since has
contradicted that.
This
was the heritage he has carried into his own family. I look back at early
photos of him and Mum, and later ones too for that matter, and realise why we
are such a good looking family. I’m not going to go through and talk about each
of us. I’d be here for days – and besides everyone would want right of reply! I
think it is quite amazing that all 13 of us are still alive – and so are Mum
and Dad.
After
the hard life of growing up on a dairy farm and being always broke, Dad really
moved into adulthood with the depression. Many of the stories he tells come
from this time when he was a young bloke, doing the blokey things with his
mates – the fishing and outings, movies and cards.
He
was then fortunate to get work surveying at Cunnamulla where he learned to be
broke in a different way. He talked about learning to find his way home
following the angle of the shadows – and also driving in circles at night while
the moon moved from being directly behind him to right in front!
Eventually
he ended up in Mackay where one of his more interesting jobs was shovelling
sand in the river. Because of the fast flowing river, sand built up very
quickly and caused problems for boats coming in. When the tide was low, Dad was
one of the lucky fellows who stood in the water, stirring up the sand with a
shovel so that it would drift away with the tide. It is a job like that which
brings home the futility of life!
Dad
met Mum at the Catholic Club in Mackay where they were both keen dancers. When
I was at primary school, we always had a St Patrick’s day dance. I was always
thrilled to dance with Dad as he was a wonderful dancer and so light on his
feet. However before that, he had danced
his way into the heart of Enid Hardy who remains his beloved partner. Together
they went on to have thirteen children, thirty-one grandchildren and, to date,
thirteen great-grand children.
The
attributes which marked his early life were repeated in his own family. A hard worker, Dad paid his home off in a
very few years from a meagre income, after-hours slaving over a pineapple or
banana patch and a tribe of kids who were more hindrance than help. The house
was always freshly painted and in wonderful condition. His lawn was his pride
and joy. I was constantly amazed that the bowls club didn’t hold their
competition in our back yard. Every other competition was held there- running,
tennis practice, fisticuffs and climbing the mango tree. I’m sure the mango
tree was one of the features which sold the house a couple of years ago. There
were so many photos taken in the tree that it could almost be called the family
tree!
Dad
is probably the only person I know to dig a hole to bury dirt. He says that the
area along the car runners was filled with concrete scraps and stones. However,
he dug a deep hole in the back yard, took out some fresh dirt for the front
yard and buried the dirty dirt –deep! He has also raised eyebrows by walking
around the yard in the rain, with an umbrella, watering the lawn. He knew and
we knew that he was watering in fertilizer which needed to be soaked. People going by didn’t know that!
We
were encouraged to do our best academically. I have never done a count but if
his children and grandchildren lined up all their degrees and diplomas and
certificates, it would be an impressive sight. Of course, some of us celebrated
our freedom at tertiary studies by having the first year socialising rather
than studying! But we are quick learners and the second year put us back on
track – with very strong encouragement!!
Mum
and Dad have an enviable record of marriage – 64 years and still going strong.
We have tried to emulate that and although some of us were not so wise in our
choice of spouse, we still have the model there and we are trying to pass those
same values along to our own children.
Many
of the images of Dad that come to mind are the small ones – making porridge in
a huge saucepan over the wood stove in Winter, bread toasted in the coals at
night as visitors sat around the kitchen table with tea and hot toast, walking
around with a baby lying along his arm with the head firmly held down by the
elbow. A couple of months ago I could have demonstrated this with Krista’s
little Cory, the youngest great-grandchild.
The
last few months have not been kind to Dad health wise and he is far less mobile
than he would want to be. However, those who have visited with him recently
know that he is still in good form, sharing his memories of different stages of
his life. His great sense of humour has
never deserted him. Many times in the past few months he has told stories which
have had him laughing so hard that the tears were running down his cheeks. If
there is a funny side to something, he is sure to see it. I have been trying to
learn the Italian language and told him one day that I had trouble rolling my
r’s . I knew immediately, when the corners of his mouth trembled that he had a
picture of a different kind of rolling r’s.
Ninety
years is a wonderful milestone and I am proud to stand here today and honour
Dad as he celebrates this birthday. But a life is more than a number of years.
A measure of life is the number of other lives that are touched and enriched.
As I look around I know that there is not one person here today whose life has
not been enhanced in some way by knowing John O’Rourke. Some of us owe him
everything because we wouldn’t be here without him. Others, aunts and cousins,
relatives and friends, have all been part of the tapestry of his life. Your
presence here today is an acknowledgement of that.
90
years Dad! That is wonderful! And just remember as you celebrate today, that
birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live. Happy
Birthday, John O’Rourke.
Toast at Keith's Wedding
Toast to the Parents of the Groom
There are three kinds of toasts – the corselet type
which covers everything, the French knickers type which covers the essentials
and the uplift toast which touches on the high points.
This toast is usually proposed by a long term friend
of the family and I wondered why friends had been overlooked. Then I realised
that, if you are lucky enough and you do the right things, your family become
your best friends.
We are fortunate that Mum and Dad have obviously
done the right things because, as a family, we are close. We don’t live in each
other’s pockets – which must be a very cramped existence in more ways than one
(and the moths do need room to move). But I feel that we are like spokes of the
wheel, moving outwards, keeping our distance, living our own lives – but still
attached to the hub for strength and support. And that support has always been
there.
For the past 45 years, their lives have centred on
the family. They’ve coped with more than the usual number of kids and catastrophes
without too obvious signs of insanity. I’ve been looking closely. It has been
said that one person in five is at least slightly crazy. If Mum and Dad are
okay and they seem to be, that leaves three of us. I know I am crazy to be
doing this and Keith has a rather glazed look about his eyes today so look
around. There is at least one other amongst us.
Mum does mention the year we all got measles, mumps
and chicken-pox (one disease after the other, one child after another) as the
year she nearly went insane. Then there were the dreadful years when we each
got a drivers licence and a car or, even worse, a motorbike. I think now that
the worst and possible the best time of the year must be Christmas. We all went
off singly and then, like Noah’s Ark, came back in twos, then in threes and
fours. We are delighted to welcome Kerri into the family today as over the
years my other sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law have been welcomed. They have
all become important to Mum and Dad. And now the grandchildren are an
increasing source of pride.
I have known Mum and Dad all my life. Because they
have always been there, it is easy to forget that there was a life for them BC
– Before Children. Dad, John Toomey O’Rourke was born in Gympie and lived on a
farm, educated at the tiny Traveston School and then Nudgee College. Mum was
born, Enid Therese Hardy, in Mackay where she lived for the first 21 years of
her life. In the aftermath of the Depression, Dad was on the road looking for
work. By co-incidence, he ended up in Mackay. Mum was working in Marsh and Webster’s,
waiting to be rescued from a life of drudgery. They met and married and had
thirteen children and, according to Dad, she never had to work again in her
life. It really was fortunate that they did meet or this wedding would be a
quiet affair – without the groom.
But they both worked, and worked hard, over the
years to give us the best they could. They’ve taught us by example the value of
a good education and the satisfaction of good honest work. We’ve been encouraged
to take that extra step and be prepared for whatever is around the corner. But
they have also shown us the value of recreation and family life. Many happy
weekends were spent at my grandparents’ farm and the ritual Sunday drives
usually ended at relatives’ places where we got to know the wider family well.
I remember too our holidays at Beachmere and Noosa and Tewantin. What stands
out in my mind is having a week or so away and then Mum and Dad going away for
a few days together. The more cynical of you may say it was to recover from us
all running wild on the beach.
But more, it reminds me of the Story of Ruth: ‘I
will go where you go and dwell where you dwell.’ Mum and Dad have taken
seriously their wedding vows to love, honour and cherish. In the ups and downs,
the joys and disappointments of life, they have been important to each other
and to us. We don’t say it often enough but we are proud to be their children.
Ladies and Gentlemen, I ask you to rise and join me in a toast to the parents
of the groom.
Ladies and Gentlemen…..to Mum and Dad, Enid and
John.
Saturday, 27 October 2012
50th Anniversary - Jim Hardy
50th Wedding Anniversary Jim Hardy
Enid and John were Bridesmaid and Best Man at my wedding
over fifty years ago. Unfortunately my love, Eileen, passed on about six years
ago.
I come from a family half the size of the O’Rourke family. I
had five sisters and one brother. My brother died very young and my sister May
died in her late twenties. The other four are all here tonight, Agnes, Monica,
Enid and Claire, helping to celebrate this occasion. I think they take after
our mother who lived to the ripe old age of 90. Our father died in his early
fifties and I am the only male member of the Hardy clan to live beyond their
fifties. So I am very glad to be here tonight.
My four sisters between them had twenty-four children of
which Enid contributed more than half with 13. I must congratulate Enid and
John on their large family, the way they have educated them. They all have good
jobs and lovely families. Enid and John, you did a great job. Congratulations
on your family and your long life together.
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